The process of raising kids has changed drastically over the years—while our parents never worried about buying us expensive gadgets when we were young; 5-year-olds these days know how to use iPads like a pro. When I was their age, my biggest aim in life was to go out and get dirty while wrestling with my friends in the mud without getting a sound thrashing from my mother. So it’s extremely intimidating when I read about pre-teen kids developing and releasing apps on Playstore and App Store and whatnot store!
On this Independence Day, four wives talk about what it really means to be married to men in India’s Defence Forces
“A few seconds separate life from death” — Avantika Agarwal
The date was February 19, 2013. It was a chilly winter evening when the mobile beeped and I received a text message. “I was 5 months pregnant when I got that text message from my husband at 7:30 PM. 3 words—Ejected. I’m fine.” says 31-year-old Avantika Agarwal, wife of fighter pilot, Wing Commander Gaurav Bikram Singh Chauhan VM and mother to a 14-month-old baby boy. “This was followed immediately with a phone call, which lasted less than a minute—not enough time to get answers to the hundreds of questions in my head, but enough to know that he was fine.”
The gap between them in the double bed was huge.
She turned around to watch him sleep in the other corner with his back towards her. She had a sudden urge to reach out and hug him from behind—ruffle his curls a little and doze off back to sleep. But, she didn’t. She kept staring as her eyes welled up a little.
It’s been this way for a while now. The everyday bickering, blame games and threats. Exactly two years back when they had decided to move in together in this house, the double sized bed used to look like a joke. Both used to sleep tangled with each other—the kisses wouldn’t stop, nor would the smiles. What changed? Continue reading